2012 is going to be your year to make changes and do things to please yourself and your soul. It is time to make your New Year’s resolution. Although the holidays are a time for getting together with family and friends to enjoy life, to open gifts, to sing songs by the fireside, and to eat a healthy family meal, there can also be a sense of heartbreak, dread and loneliness. Suicide rates increase, cheaters get exposed, thieves steal, families argue. Children look forward to Santa Claus coming to town, but is there an unknown coming instead to change your world? Well let’s make some changes for the upcoming new year.
For example, wives and husbands may be dealing with unemployment and decide to take their woes to another level by leaning on someone other than their respective spouses. During the holiday season, the other woman or the other man may get more attention than your spouse. Have you ever felt like you were unable to speak to your spouse about the smallest of things because they wouldn’t understand or would take everything you discussed the wrong way? Or do you get the feeling that your spouse is unfaithful, but you just cannot pinpoint with whom or when they’re stepping out on you? Life is too short to continue to find out what they’re doing all the time. No matter how many times you ask them to discontinue an affair or change their destructive behavior, trying to catch them red-handed will not stop any wrongdoing. Is that apology real or are they just sorry they got caught?
Resolution: Put a statute of limitations on your unhappy relationship problems and live a happier life.
It is okay to be sad for a moment, but at the end of the day you have to encourage yourself that life gets better. Psalm 46:1 advises that “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” No matter what your religious beliefs, when trouble comes your way, believe in a higher power to rescue you from your despair. Chivalry is not dead because hope exists. Your knight in shining armor may have been a jerk in aluminum foil, but there’s an understanding and helpful man waiting on you. She may not have been the woman of your dreams, and instead became the wench in your worst nightmare, but there’s another woman you’re being shaped for who appreciates you and accepts you for who you are. Every situation you’re experiencing is like a quiz that prepares you for the final exam. You’ve heard the cliché “it’s not what you go through, but HOW you go through it.” You no longer have to spy on your spouse or significant other just to see what they’re doing or prove that they’re cheating. Being right isn’t what matters. How you live your life is what matters the most.
Disclaimer: Please note that domestic violence, rape, mental, sexual & emotional abuse toward you or your children is a toxic relationship, so please DO NOT compromise or stay in an unhealthy situation. However, if the relationship is not toxic, there is hope for you and your significant other.