Infidelity in Marriage… What’s Behind it?
In our culture infidelity has become a major part of entertainment. We see it in popular television programs and movies. Infidelity to some is enjoyment and amusement. Some men think if they are not slipping and cheating they are not being a man. Some individuals grew up in environments where cheating was/is a way of life. Some women think life is boring with out the excitement of an outside affair. In spite of the reasons, God to a Christian, says No to adultery. Those living outside of God’s covenant are considered worldly and not in agreement with God; therefore, they do as they please. Those Christians who commit infidelity must examine themselves to see if they are Christians.
So, what is behind Christian infidelity? The word Christian means Christ-like. It appears that every person who proclaims to be a Christian is not one. Or after entering the faith they still struggle with worldly influences. How can we tell a true Christian from a false one? Scripture says, “You will know a tree by the fruit it bears.” True Christianity displays a changed life reflecting the nature of Christ — not a perfect life, but a progressive life. False Christians resemble the world. Their behavior is identical to the world. True or false Christianity is a matter of choice.
In Christianity the husband and wife becomes one flesh. This oneness in sexuality is symbolic of their oneness in the Spirit. Such oneness represents their unity in love through Christ. Only the Holy Spirit is capable of producing such love. True love is not manipulative or crafty. A cunning and crafty nature belongs to the enemy of Christ. So, the problem with infidelity among so called Christians is a belief in another power other than Christ. For this reason Christ said, “Do not be unequally yoked together.” Why? He said, “What fellowship has light with darkness. Meaning, what companionship does deception have with truth. There is none. Unequally yoked means two people are thinking in opposite directions. Couples who struggle with infidelity probably are unequally joined together. They are not on one accord; therefore, “A divided house can not stand.”
Marriage represents a true relationship with our Creator and spouse. Adultery represents disloyalty to our Creator. If one is not loyal to God, most likely this person will not be loyal to spouse. The problem may be a wrong marriage rather than infidelity, the consequence of the mistake. So why struggle with a person involved in infidelity when you can love yourself with God’s help.
With over 30 years of experience, Bonnie C. Leonard has assisted families and children in need of emotional support, aiding and encouraging them to strive for a better life, spiritually and physically. Bonnie is the author of God and Marriage and The Two Shall Become One.