Communication is key factor in any relationship. Understand the message and in turn make sure you’re sending a clear message yourself. I’m reminded of an argument with my spouse that should have gone in a totally different direction than it did all because he misunderstood my message. From that one misinterpretation, it skyrocketed into a weekend fight about everything that ever angered us. From the beginning of time up until that moment…we dug up old dirt, cut throats, and hit below the belt.
My entire message stemmed from his infidelity. Reminding him that for some women, we tend to associate the infidelity with how you will provide for us. Now that the other woman is in your life, are you moving out? Now that your mistress is giving you time, are you going to financially provide for us or walk out the door? Those questions ran through my mind three years ago, and often come up today when we discuss finances. My heart hadn’t healed completely, so all kinds of negative thoughts ran through my mind. Is he going to leave once he’s stable enough or once we get over this particular financial hump?
I’m never able to pinpoint why men cheat, and I’ve written on the subject previously. One of the reasons I stated earlier is that they cheat “just because they can” or “because we as women allow it and don’t expect better for ourselves”. Not all men have those same reasons. Perhaps I’m biased because I’m the offended party. So let’s hear from a man’s point of view…
Below, tv/radio host and best-selling relationship author, Steve Harvey, addresses the age old question: “Why Do Men Cheat?”