How do you compete with a mother-in-law, stepdaughter, ex-girlfriend whose the mother of your spouse’s child, and other women who are also interested in your mate? When it comes to his child, you are in a difficult position because that child is now your concern as well. The well-being of the child is the most important relationship that all involved should be concerned about. Unfortunately there are others who are in the picture who want first place in your man’s life.
As his wife, you are the most important woman in his life. His relationship with you is the 2nd best relationship he may develop as his relationship with God takes the #1 spot. It gets complicated when the ex-girlfriend who is now his child’s mother is still bitter or angry about their previous relationship. What if the daughter (or son) is doing everything to sabotage the current relationship so that your spouse can go back to her (or his) mother. We cannot forget the mother who loves her “little boy” so dearly that she has to be the focus of attention and dictate his every move and free time that he may have. And to put the icing on the cake, there are other women around town who have their hand out to grab-n-take what is yours.
How do you cope with the stresses of the other women?
1. “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh… So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” Matthew 19:5-6 (New International Version)
2. “I will call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised; so shall I be saved from my enemies…For by You I can run against a troop, by my God I can leap over a wall…As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.” Psalm 18:3, 29-30 (New King James Version)
3. “So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?”” Hebrews 13:6 (New International Version)