So he/she cheated and you wonder what to do next. You question your relationship and whether or not you should even be married to the adulterer. You doubt what they say. You observe more the things they do or lack thereof. You are constantly wondering when you are away from them whether or not they are faithful. Have you given up on your spouse or significant other? Are you constantly asking God whether or not this person is the right one? Are you waiting for them to change or for there to be a resolution to your marital strife? Are you waiting for the mistress or mister to leave the relationship so you can regain your spouse’s attention? Are you waiting for a sign from God?
Three simple solutions to any question above:
PURSUE GOD ONLY RIGHT NOW:
Matthew 6:33 (Amplified Bible) But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things taken together will be given you besides.
Concern yourself with everything that God wants instead of what you want. He knows you better than you do.
WAIT ON GOD:
Isaiah 30:18 And therefore will the LORD wait, that he may be gracious unto you, and therefore will he be exalted, that he may have mercy upon you: for the LORD is a God of judgment: blessed are all they that wait for him.
Isaiah 33:2 O LORD, be gracious unto us; we have waited for thee: be thou their arm every morning, our salvation also in the time of trouble.
Isaiah 40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
Lamentations 3:25 The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him.
Romans 8:25 But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.
After you’ve pursued a relationship with God, your best option now is to wait on Him. Waiting is difficult for some who live in a microwave society where things must be done now, quick, fast, and in a hurry. Waiting creates patience. Patience creates a humble spirit. To be humble is to be meek and submissive to God. Matthew 5:5 Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.
BE SILENT, THEN LISTEN FOR GOD’S RESPONSE:
Job 6:24 Teach me, and I will be silent; And show me how I have erred.
Affairs are not your fault. If you must say that you have made a mistake, then let it be the mistake of choosing the wrong person or choosing to get married when you should not have. Do not blame yourself for their affair. Everyone makes mistakes. Your spouse has made incorrect choices. Ask God to reveal to you your mistakes, whether intentional or unintentional, and teach you how to correct them—for yourself, for your spouse should you choose to stay with him/her, and/or for the new man/woman with whom God will bless you.
(Refer to prayer on being silent: http://rupertward.cce.uk.net/2009/11/03/be-silent/)
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