Today was going to be like any other day for Shirley. As usual she tried not to anticipate anything romantic from her husband. He made it very clear to her that he would rather be with the other woman, and their relationship was dwindling into the abyss by the moment. He’d already moved back in with his mother awaiting the arrival of his mistress. She was going to relocate herself and her six children to be with Shirley’s husband. Friends and family members advised Shirley that if he wanted to be in a relationship with this woman to allow him to walk out of her life. With much apprehension, debate, and midnight tears, Shirley let go…and let God…handle her husband.
Couples going through transitional phases in which they are on the brink of divorce or are trying to rekindle their flame have tough decisions to make. How do you prepare for a divorce? If your significant other is the only person whose ever been in your life, how are you able to date again or trust again? If he/she comes back home, will you forgive them and wipe their slate clean? Or will you constantly remind them of their mistakes and how lucky they are that you’ve forgiven them and let them back in your heart? It’s not easy going through any transitional time in your marriage or relationship. It takes lots of dedication, maturity, and commitment to work out difficulties. It takes even more strength to let go if the relationship will not work. There are more “Shirley’s” in the world, both male and female dealing with infidelity, than can probably be counted. Life is not about what you go through, but how you go through the difficulties. From a spiritual standpoint, you have to realize that your blessings come from a higher power when you stop stressing about what you cannot control and start taking control that which you can control. The goal is not to get you to try a technique that may or may not work for you. It is certainly not trying something that may or may not work for your partner. Communication is the key, and love unlocks the door. Whatever situation you are in, do not continue to dwell on the past, the mistakes, the hurt, the pain, the actual act of infidelity, etc. Look to God for every answer to the questions that you have. Like Shirley, you have to know when to let go and let God handle the things you cannot control.
Philippians 3:13-14 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.