…does not come easy when you’re in a toxic relationship.  As a matter of fact, when it becomes unbearable and uncontrollable some times you have to let things go.  The best thing to do at that point is to give the issues of a bad relationship to God.  One of two things will happen:  1. He will make a way of escape out of that relationship 2. He will make you stronger while you’re in the midst of that relationship whether you leave or stay.

Instead of making a long story long, I’ll keep it brief.  In my situation, I had a bad marriage.  Terrible.  To the point, I myself had given up on the marriage, but hung in there hoping for a change.  To change the situation, I had to do something I had never done before.  I had to let God handle what I couldn’t handle.  I had to stop playing God and trying to fix my man.  I had to pray more and talk less.  I did my usual prayer for family, friends, and enemies.  Then I shifted and decided to pray for my spouse, and to pray in advance for the man I NEEDED him to become.  So I prayed that this cheating, weed-smoking, always-lying man would beat me down a church aisle asking how he can get saved.

As a result, my husband has put down the weed and picked up a bible.  Instead of calling other women, he’s eager to call me.  Instead of yelling at me about touching his cell phone, he hands it to me in case I want to use it.  Instead of being a  Jerk in aluminum foil, I found my Knight in shining armor.

Individual results will vary, but to answer the question as to whether prayer works or is God real, from my point of view and the angels in Heaven backing this message: YES.

As always, if no one else loves you remember God loves you and so do I.  Be silentforamoment and listenforever…


  1. Own up to your mistakes.
  2. Own up to the bad choices that you’ve made.
  3. Own up to the selfish need to be right.
  4. Own up to the fear of being alone.
  5. Own up to the fear of rejection.
  6. Own up to the fact that you love him, but he doesn’t love you.
  7. Own up to the misconception that you can change him.
  8. Own up to the fact you chose a mate over your child(ren).
  9. Own up to the fact that you put God last to do your own will.
  10. Own up to the fact that you blame everyone else, but yourself.

Owning up to any hard truth about yourself is the hardest thing you will ever have to do.  Understand the difference between right and wrong.  Common sense isn’t common because if it were everyone would have it.  Know your limits.  Know your own boundaries.  Know what is wrong choice and what is the right choice to make for yourself, your children, for your family, and even for your closest friends.  Own up to the mistakes you’ve made and learn to forgive yourself for those mistakes.  Move forward.  Don’t look back at what has already passed.  Look forward to a brighter future, and own your present situations.  Stand firm in God that He has given you a spirit of power, of love, and of a sound mind to make the right choices for your life and those affected by your life.