Archive for the Affairs Category


Dear Diary

Dear Diary, I must admit that my mind wandered toward thoughts of another man.  My present situation is beyond unhealthy and borderline insane.  The constant fighting is a foolish problem to have, and my only escape from the nonsense is to dream about being with someone else.  I felt guilty for this at first, but […]

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If You Must Cheat, Do It Right

I began this as a joke and told a friend of mine I’d prefer guys and gals be on the same page when it comes to cheating. There are too many sloppy cheaters out there, and majority of them are guys. My friend wasn’t happy at first because she said I was giving the secrets […]

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Letter to the Other Woman

June 20, 2012 To The Other Woman, You probably think all my venting posts are in reference to you. You may even assume I live my every waking moment to find out what YOU are doing. In fact, it is quite the opposite. My comments used to be about you years ago, but not anymore. […]

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Why Men Cheat…From a Man’s Viewpoint

Communication is key factor in any relationship. Understand the message and in turn make sure you’re sending a clear message yourself. I’m reminded of an argument with my spouse that should have gone in a totally different direction than it did all because he misunderstood my message. From that one misinterpretation, it skyrocketed into a […]

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Marriage Counseling Session

Him: She is a good woman, but she doesn’t forget anything I’ve done wrong. Pastor: What did you do wrong? Him: I had an affair, and now she’s not with me at all. Pastor: That explains why she hasn’t forgotten anything. A woman won’t ever forget, but it is her choice to forgive you. Her: […]

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Marriage Counseling

Most marriages cannot survive an affair. Divorce, abuse, resentment, and other negative consequences are the aftermath of divorce. What do you think? Is it possible to trust your mate after an affair and start over? I think it is possible to heal and if both parties are willing to make the marriage work, it is […]

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Best Friend

A lover of mine broke my heart. He used to be my best friend. I cared for him deeply. Inseparable til the end. One touch from him eased my soul. One kiss my heart skipped beats. One moment and time would freeze. In bed with another between silk sheets. I don’t want to be anything […]

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Finding Good Marriage Counseling Books

It’s pretty clear, if you drive a car, that to keep it running you have to change the oil periodically. Although this seems clear to everyone, apparently it’s much less clear to people that you need to periodically “change the oil” on your marriage – in other words, marriage requires maintenance. One convenient and effective way to help maintain (and improve) your marriage is to consult marriage counseling books. Something so valuable as a marriage is worth the time and money that it takes to buy and read the book. This little investment can prevent a nasty and painful divorce.

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When Cheating Goes Wrong…

We’ve agreed that for whatever reason, cheating is wrong on so many different levels. Yet cheaters cheat because they can, they want to, or because we may have driven them to that point with our own attitudes. Rest assured that the reasons that your mate cheats is not always your fault. So remember not to […]

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A Marital Journey to Forgiveness After Infidelity

An affair is survivable. Millions of couples opt to stay together for many reasons. More often than not they still love each other still love and still possess a longing for the marriage to endure and this is what brings couples to marriage and family counseling. Therapy treatment, in conjunction with the couple’s persistant efforts, can help a marriage after an affair not only survive the affair but also thrive and grow into the marriage for which both have always longed.

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